Off late I have seen pictures and videos with emphasis on “relationship goal”. I was wondering, since when did a relationship become a goal that we need to achieve. How does someone else relationship become a goal for you? I mean have you lived their life? Why is there so much hue and cry about relationships these days? I don’t see any such goals about one’s relationships with their parent or siblings or cousins or grandparents. Are they not relationships that we need to work for and on? Or are they simply taken for granted?
Any relationship, be it with the spouse, parents, relatives, colleagues or friends, needs nurture. Let us look at a few things to be mindful about when it comes to any relationship.
Respect is very important, to give and to receive. If you feel disrespected, you should just simply walk away. There is no need to endure it, unless of course your pay check depends on that.
Live and let live should be practiced consciously, if I may say so. Being possessive in the name of love is just lame. Grow up and learn to respect one’s need for privacy.
The art of talking and giving “gyaan”, we all have mastered, but most of us have failed in the art of “listening”. To listen without the urge to give a reply, without being judgmental, without giving opinion we all lack at. The fact that we have two ears and one tongue, is an indication that we should use the ears more often than the tongue.
Trust, one of the main ingredients in the soup called “relation”. Learn to believe in people you love without being doubtful. That does not mean being blind towards the truth that is in front of you. Simple learn to trust your “instincts”.
I have heard “opposites attract” or “we have the same taste in things”. This is not necessarily the benchmark to start a relationship. You may not agree with everything that the other says or may hold different opinions, that does not mean you aren’t meant for each other. Understand and respecting each one’s opinion is what matters at the end of the day.
Communication, is the key to any healthy relationship. Instead of harbouring unsaid feelings, and feeling bitter, it is better to be vocal. Talk it out always.
Love, this is what is keeping the world together, and this is what keeps a relation strong as well. To love and to be loved is a blessing. And each one of us is blessed.
Every relationship we build and grow with is important. The positive experiences make us strong and the negative ones make us stronger. Learn to love, care, trust, talk and listen. And the most important of all the relationships, is one that we have with ourselves.