Human mind is so flexible and complicated, what you feed it to be, same is the way it acts. The clutches of deep rooted gender roles entitled in Indian households are no exception even after the wide spread liberal thoughts.
There are certain most common and degrading comment on women that navigate in Indian society. “Joru Ka Ghulam, Puppet of wife, and so on”. In a society of India, women is and was treated the second grade citizen. She and her works were restricted to four walls of the house. As the time changed, women too got engaged in education and self-empowerment made her develop her own ideas and thoughts. Then the men with liberal thoughts adopted the new reality and accepted the fact that, women too have dreams and she is not bound to be restricted to four walls. Evolution of these facts, man who accepted women and her wisdom were titled Joru ka Ghulam. Which became an indirect way of suppressing women and her ideas.
If looked at interior of the house, whenever a function is organised in the family, women becomes the major contributor towards cooking. But it is the men in the house who is served first and the term of women who spent entire day in the kitchen for cooking arrives post evening. There is a need for men in the society to take a moment and analyse their role in making the life easy for their other counterparts.
When a women works outside the house and comes back home, people in the house expect her to serve them food or water. Simultaneously, when both husband and wife return home post work, kitchen welcomes women and the resting chair for men. When both are into their dream outside, filling the stomach which is the basic necessity of human existence and therefore when it is done by both the hands, no one will be burdened.
There also exists other concepts like, “she need not work post marriage, as we have lots of wealth to look after our family”. In this case, what the society forgets is, deciding on whether to work or no is a woman’s personal choice. She may not need to earn for the family but work might be her wings to the sky.
Women too are responsible in keeping men away from their own basic chores. Women have considered themselves to be super humans and have inculcated multi-tasking. We believe cooking and cleaning are women only duties and it is the generosity of men in our lives that we go out in achieving our dreams.
Along with men, cultural clutches that the women is trapped in should also change. Cooking, cleaning are part and parcel of one’s life, like taking bath or brushing the teeth. Every individual has to do it.
Women back in time stayed home adopted it in their routine as men alone went out and came home tired. Today, when both go out hunting their dreams, let us also make our male counterparts our partners in managing the family and making way for their involvement rather overburdening on self.