When it comes to understanding yourself, here’s something everyone should know. Your self-concept contains two elements. The first is your view of your competencies. Do you see yourself as being good at a variety of skills? The second aspect is your intrinsic self-worth. Do you feel as worthwhile as other people, independent of your skills? Do you feel like you have inherent self-worth as a human?
High achievers sometimes recognise their competencies and skills but don’t feel a sense of inherent self-worth that’s separate from those. They see their worth as contingent on their achievements.
Perfectionism
High achievers with low self-worth often hold themselves to extremely high standards and strive for perfection in everything they do. They constantly seek validation and approval from others, believing that their worth is tied to their achievements.
Self-Criticism
Despite their impressive accomplishments, individuals with low self-worth often engage in self-criticism and negative self-talk. They have difficulty accepting compliments or recognising their own strengths, focusing instead on their perceived shortcomings or failures.
Fear of Failure
While high achievers are generally driven and motivated, those with low self-worth may have an intense fear of failure. They may put excessive pressure on themselves to succeed, fearing that any setback or mistake will confirm their negative self-image.
External Validation
Individuals with low self-worth often rely heavily on external validation and recognition to feel a sense of worthiness. They may constantly seek approval from others and feel a sense of emptiness or dissatisfaction if their achievements are not acknowledged or praised.
Relentless Work Ethic
High achievers with low self-worth may exhibit an excessive and relentless work ethic. They may overcommit themselves to various projects and tasks, using their achievements as a way to prove their worth to themselves and others.
Difficulty Celebrating Success
Despite their accomplishments, individuals with low self-worth may struggle to genuinely celebrate their successes. They may downplay their achievements, attribute them to luck or external factors, and quickly move on to the next goal without allowing themselves to bask in their accomplishments.
Though these signs are not definitive and may vary from person to person. If you resonate with these signs, it may be helpful to seek support from a mental health professional or counselor who can provide guidance and help you build a healthier sense of self-worth.