Getting married is an extremely important and big step in one’s life. Living a married life involves a lot of effort, sacrifices, adjustments, compromises, and much more. It also involves the union of two families and not just two people. Thus, one needs to be absolutely sure about committing to the institution of marriage.
There are few factors you need to discuss before marrying.
Money
Talking about money can be a step towards preventing financial infidelity. The things you should discuss can include: How do you view money? Are you a spender or a saver? Do you think we should have separate or joint accounts or both? These discussions will help you in keeping transparency in money-related matters and in also knowing what kind of responsibilities your partner is willing to take or share.
Personal space
Discuss your need for time alone, or apart from one another. People often overlook this topic initially but after the intense bonding of the early stages, one or both of them may want a bit of time for themselves or time apart which they need so as to spend time with others.
Children
It is very important for a couple to have a straightforward and candid conversation, not only about whether they in fact want to have children but also about their beliefs and values about parenting together. Also discussion needs to be done about the responsibilities they share after becoming parent.
What you want to change about each other
A lot of partners enter marriage with a secret hope that something will change about their partner. However, holding on to these silent hopes can be very destructive to the long-term health and happiness of your marriage. Therefore, disclosing them before marriage can actually help you in a more effective way.
How you will handle fights
Make sure you understand each other’s way of managing conflict. Whatever your argument style is, decide what counts as acceptable fight behaviour and what does not.
Though pre-marriage talks are helpful, it is indeed important to maintain the same kind of commitment, and love compassion for many years together, so practically there will be many changes. Yet it is important to know your partner well in advance.