When you are sharing your day or a genuine crisis, is your man’s response, “What’s that, baby?” Yelling at him won’t help him be a better listener. You have so much to share with your man from your boss’s latest move to the funny things your friend said. But your partner’s eyes desperately dart from your face to the game on TV. He’s just not listening.
So why men don’t listen most of the times. Here are some reasons so that women can understand and thus make the situations better.
Your man don’t listen to you because
1) You expect him to agree with you.
Whatever points you tell infront of him, you expect him to agree with you, no matter whether you are right or wrong. If he thinks you just want him to agree, he won’t have any incentive to listen. Nobody likes their honest opinions suppressed or feeling compelled to agree with someone they think is wrong.
2) You don’t talk to the point
Women often feel that sharing every detail of a story is a way of building intimacy, of helping your man understand what you are going through.
In reality, he is more interested in getting to the point. From a man’s perspective, women provide too many details which is not necessary. He is more interested in getting to the point.
3) You forget to use your “pause” button.
You have a lot to say about everything – the movie that won Best Picture, your son’s day-care teacher, your husband’s clothing choices and about his mother. You may think you need to get it all out “so everything is heard forever.” While men view conversation as a means to an end, some women (not all) just like to talk, and can go on and on without pausing. Instead, many men will just shut down.
4) He’s doing something else.
He is watching the game or trying to finish an email. But you need advice or an answer to a question, and he can multi-task, right?
Not always.