Turning your relationship goals into habits takes time and effort, but it’s worth it. When you make positive behaviours part of your everyday life, you will strengthen your connection with your partner and create a more fulfilling relationship.
In this process don’t try to change too much at once. Pick one or two small habits that you think will make a big difference in your relationship, and focus on those. For example, you might decide to make a habit of saying “I love you” every day, or of going on a weekly date night.
The easier it is to do something, the more likely you are to stick with it. So, make sure your habits are something that you can realistically do on a regular basis. For example, if you want to start a habit of spending more time together, don’t make it a goal to have dinner together every night. Instead, start with something smaller, like having coffee together once a week.
The key to making a habit stick is to be consistent. So, try to do your habit at the same time each day or week. For example, if you want to start a habit of saying “I love you” every day, make it a point to say it to your partner first thing in the morning or last thing at night.
Everyone slips up sometimes. If you miss a day or two of your habit, don’t beat yourself up. Just pick up where you left off and keep going.
Don’t forget! When you reach a milestone with your habit, take some time to celebrate your success. This will help you stay motivated and on track.