Trauma bonding is a psychological phenomenon that occurs when someone forms a strong emotional bond with someone who abuses them. It is often seen in abusive relationships, but it can also happen in other types of relationships, such as between a child and an abusive caregiver, or between a hostage and their kidnapper.
Trauma bonding develops through a cycle of abuse and intermittent reinforcement. The abuser will first inflict some form of abuse, such as physical, emotional, or verbal abuse. This will cause the victim to feel fear, confusion, and sadness. Then, the abuser will do something to make the victim feel better, such as apologising , giving them gifts, or being extra loving. This cycle of abuse and positive reinforcement can be very confusing and difficult to break.
Here are some of the signs of trauma bonding:
* Feeling like you can’t leave the relationship, even though you know it’s not good for you.
* Making excuses for the abuser’s behavior.
* Keeping the abuse a secret.
* Distancing yourself from friends and family who are trying to help you.
* Hoping that the abuser will change.
* Wanting love from the abuser, even though they hurt you.